Monday, December 05, 2005


ben "I'm spilling my yogurt"
ben "why am i spilling my yogurt"

and later

"I want THIS KIND of yogurt [cry]" ben
"OK, Ben, here's the yogurt you want." dad
"Why did you get me that yogurt?" ben

Over and over and over again.

Why? I don't know.


Sparky said...

I can't say I understand the mechanics, but I surely recognize the behavior. Especially around food...I think it has something to do with the fact that we always ask them what they want, or "what do you feel like having", such that they begin to understand that there are some options, and therefore subjective forces at play, and therefore, an opportunity for control.

My partner, who reads, explained to me once that there's a stage (around 4) when they begin to realize that you can't read their mind -- that there's no psychic umbilical. First they get annoyed when you didn't get the memo (like, at breakfast) and then they start testing the waters with non truths. They hedge on a lie, a lil' bit, just to see if they get caught.

I doubt Ben's there yet. It's really messed up.

wickerd said...

I can't say I understand the mechanics either. My dog doesn't give me a good frame of reference.

However I do know you will look fondly on these days when he starts asking for the car.